Interview with Sandy Hogan
By Laurel Elders
“Sandy, can you share more about your thoughts on the imposter syndrome?” I started our daily interview.
“Ahh, yes. It arises when an individual believes they are not as they present. It happens in all walks of life. It is not gender specific.
“You can identify it by catching your inner process. For example if you hear yourself thinking thoughts like:
“When suffering from imposter syndrome people become on high alert and hypervigilant. They question: “What if they find out?” They seek evidence that others may reveal them as a fraud. When you admire something you don’t think you have, you tend to give your power away through comparison and doubt.
“Nine times out of ten, this is all a myth. This is because people think about us a lot less than we think they do. When we are in negative emotions of fear, self-doubt, over-compensation, shame, they take over and we find ourselves trying to prove our worth rather than being our worth.
“People who are susceptible to the syndrome also struggle with shame, conscious or unconscious.”
What I have learned from Sandy in this interview and over the years as her student:
Furthermore, Sandy said: “The beautiful human needs the syndrome is trying to mitigate are: Authenticity, Inner-Value, Self-worth and Contribution.”
Homework Sandy suggestion to begin to unravel the syndrome:
Exercise: Identify someone who you find to be an exemplar of who you wish to be.
1) What qualities do they have that you admire so deeply?
2) What is the evidence of those qualities?
3) How can you emulate those qualities?
4) What will it take to believe in your own power?
5) When is the next opportunity to believe in yourself?
6) What do you wish to come of this opportunity?
Author: Laurel Elders, PCC, CEC
Laurel helps people wake up delighted to be leading the life they've been called to step into. She is a professionally trained and credentialed Integrative Life & Leadership Coach. Laurel's coaching methodologies teach you how to take life's roadblocks and use them as stepping stones through your own wisdom, allowing you to fully lead through your calling!